Marriage & Relationship

Love is Not Always a Bed of Roses

I believe marriage – like life – is defined as much by the problems that have to be overcome together, as a husband and wife.

I’m old enough to know that marriage is not always a bed of roses. In every relationship, there are ups and downs. It is not always perfect and conflict-free.

And LOVE is about confronting these issues and overcoming them without hurting the other party. This is possibly one of the things that are hard to achieve, and it’s my weakness too.


My husband and I had numerous fights and arguments too – some of them were dramatic and serious. Just last week, we had a huge fight. We were screaming at each other so loudly and we were in a car along the expressway. Little Edison and our helper were seated in the rear, they were so worried but they didn’t dare to say a word. I was so angry that I ignored him for the whole day.

But no matter how hard we fight, we will eventually forgive and forget. We will always move on. Love is about forgiveness, because when we really love someone, we have to forgive them and be patient with their mistakes. And that’s the greatest power of LOVE.

When I think about it again, I can’t even remember why we had such a big fight. It could be possibly due to my impatience and his bad-temperedness – these two elements is a bad combination and the ‘evil’ in our relationship.

Whenever I’m angry with him, I will also remember him as the man, who would boil bitter guard soup for me when I’m sick, give me support and stand by me when I’m down, drive my car to the petrol station when I’m busy, tell me silly jokes when I’m sad and protect me when I was bullied.

I constantly remind myself that I’m blessed to have such a wonderful husband. And automatically, my anger will disappear. It’s magical.

LOVE is a long journey. LOVE is a lot of hard works too.


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  • Huey ling

    Hey, read an old post here. Agree that marriage is not fairy tale where we live happily ever after. But I think that odds and arguments are part of a healthy marriage. As long as we sort out the differences and forgive and forget, it is perfectly fine. Lets all work hard to have a healthy, happy and blissful marriage and family life!

    • Emily

      Hi Ling,
      Agree with you. It takes two to clap. Let’s work together to a happy family and blissful marriage. 🙂

  • I couldn’t agree more. I’m not yet married but am engaged to a wonderfully patient man, who is ready to disregard my imperfections just to love me more. There are times when I feel so guilty because I can’t stick with as much patience as he has for me. But he never left.

    Love is one of the most well-known yet underrated and intricate aspect of humanity. And I know no matter how long a person experiences it, it can never be thoroughly explained.

    • Emily

      Hi Tina,
      Glad to hear that you’ve found such a wonderful man to share your life journey and happiness. Wish you happiness always. 🙂