I’m contemplating whether I should transfer my helper back to my agent and get a replacement. Her performance is deteriorating recently. And it worsens every time she gets a scolding from Daddy V.

No doubt Daddy V is a demanding employer. I talked to him countless times not to be too demanding with the helper but unfortunately, I can’t change him. On the other hand, Pin (our helper) is a slow worker, tends to be forgetful and very emotional. Whenever Daddy V barks at her, she will cry and show her sulky black face all day.

They really drove me up the wall! To be honest, I’ve been very patient with her. I told myself, as long as she takes good care of Little Edison, I should be able to tolerate her slowness. It’s very destructive to change the helper now because it is tedious to get a three-year-old to accept a new helper. And ultimately, there is no perfect maid in the world.

When our previous helper, Niti, left half a year ago, I really had a hard time trying to get Little Edison to accept Pin. If I were to change the helper, I have to go through the ordeal again. It’s such a nightmare!

Last night, when I was in the shower, Little Edison sank his teeth into her hand. I didn’t witness the incident as I was in the bathroom, but I can see the visible teeth marks on her hand. I quizzed him on the incident. He looked down all apologetic and remorseful with big wet eyes. I warned him not to repeat his mistake again or he will be punished. He cried, feeling sad and went to bed.

Pin was unhappy with the incident. When Daddy V got home, he barked at her for some considerably small mistakes that she made. She was even more upset and she cried.

This morning, she was in her usual listless look again. When I asked her to feed Little Edison, she pretended to do it. Fifteen minutes later, she told me that he didn’t want to drink his milk. I knew that she purposely delayed it so that I will take over her job.

At this point, I declare that I couldn’t tolerate with her nonsense anymore. I will give her one last chance. If her performance still doesn’t improve by end of this month, or continue to deteriorate, I will certainly send her back to my agent! It is non-negotiable. Full stop.