I’ve been sitting on my bed, staring at this photo for ten minutes now. The first thing that comes into my mind was – Has it really been five years?
I look at this photo of my baby boy taken in Sep 2007. It’s one of the first few photos that we took after we’ve been discharged from the hospital. My baby boy was sleeping so soundly with his eyes closed, blue mittens on his little hands and mini bolsters by his sides. He was born with a full head of hair!
He is my firstborn, the miracle who made me a mother.
Then, my eyes gradually shift to the 5-year-old boy napping on his bed. And the memories, rewind, play and fast forward all at once. It’s amazing how this little guy has grown for the past five years. And it’s even more amazing to discover how a photo can bring a flood of memories to me!
That is exactly what I call the Joy of Motherhood! It’s that wonderful feeling when you look at your child and know that this little bundle of perfection is all yours. And the beautiful positive feeling that with him, life is good, purposeful and fulfilling!
What come next are our efforts to do the very best for our baby. We want to protect them from the harshness of the outside world, provide them with the best of nutrition, care, safety and comfort.
As we explore the amazing journey into motherhood, new challenges come along inevitably. Life as a mother can be so busy and stressful, and we often end up unhappy. Babies tend to be very demanding, as a result, we’re often sleep-deprived.
Gradually, we begin to lose sight of the gift of motherhood that we’ve been blessed with. I admit that I’ve lost the joy of motherhood just barely one month into it; my feelings became unstable in the midst of my troubles.
The whole change came to me after I attended a motherhood workshop. I learned that I need to take control over my life and start to make it into something good. Even when I was feeling overwhelmed by the endless demands of being a mother, I knew that I can change things for the better.
Motherhood is wonderful, we just need to take time to look after ourselves and think about how we really want to live. To start off, I wrote down in great details on what my capabilities and resources are, as well as my limits.
As soon as I got it, I realized that I’ve much greater potential than I’ve ever imagined. From there, I narrowed down the motherhood challenges that are testing me on a daily and weekly basis. Here are some common challenges that we face and how I tackled them:
1. Coping with Sleep Deprivation
We all know that getting enough sleep is an important part of living to stay healthy and productive. But very often, there are times when getting enough sleep are out of our control when we have a newborn or a sick child.
When this happens, I scale back on my commitments, focus on important issues that are non-negotiable, and prioritize them to make sure that I don’t fall prey to the tyranny of the urgent and leave the most important things undone.
Besides, I plan my meals and snacks carefully. Eat a protein-rich breakfast, drink lots of water, use caffeine wisely, and try eating an apple when my energy level starts to drop. It really helps!
Lastly, don’t forget the secret short-cut using a 20-minute power nap! It increases energy, awareness and productivity. Just be creative to seize every napping moment that we can!
2. Coping with a Crying Baby
I had my fair share of crying baby when I was taking care of Little Edison all by myself during my 3 months of maternity leave. Every time it happened, I had to dig-out my checklist – Is he hungry? Soiled? Too warm or too cold? Tired? Bored? Attention? Over-stimulated? Fever? Or just want to suck on something?
Gradually, it became easier when I got the hang of it. My secret is simply by wrapping him in pure love. Give him the amazing softness as an expression of love, by using Comfort Ultra Pure fabric softener for all his clothes. When he is comfortable with the clothes that he wears, he is less prone to being irritable or fussy.
In addition, a warm baby bath, distraction with toys, a ride in the car, cuddles with singing or talking, swaddling, and a baby massage will help too.
3. Coping with Household Chores
At this point, we should realize that our sleep is more important than household chores. Ask the husband or family members to help out, hire a cleaner, or get a babysitter. There are plenty of help available, only if we recognize our limits and willing to look for help.
After I tackled the three main challenges above, I began to see the beginning and end of every day. I really made a positive change in my life and rediscovered the joy of motherhood. Within a few months, I also beat my goal by shrinking from size XL to M and maintaining it till now!
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