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In the last couple of months, life has been really hectic. This is especially so when our boy started Primary One this year. I have to wake up at 5:20am, make breakfast, prepare myself for work, prepare our boy for school and finally send him to school.
I usually leave my office slightly early at 5:45pm. By the time I reach my parents-in-law’s house at 6pm, I will start the revision session with Little Edison. I hate it actually, to have to do spelling test or ‘ting xie’ with him the moment I step home. But I have no choice.
Then, I’ve to check his communication book and get him to do his school homework. At this point, he’s still unable to manage it independently. It’s not entirely his fault, but more on mine for not training him to do it all by himself.
I know I should change this – to let him manage his own school works by himself, without giving him too much assistance. For a start, I’m teaching him how to pack his school bag, follow his time-table and tidy-up his pencil case as well as stationeries every day.
Anyway, I’m glad that there isn’t much school homework. On an average, he has it once a week but he has English and Chinese spelling test almost every week. English spelling is still manageable even though I find that words like “imagination”, “frightened” and “favourite” are a bit too challenging for Primary One.
Chinese spelling test, on the other hand, is the one that is ‘killing’ us every week! For the first term, his Chinese spelling test is all on HanYuPinYin. From Term 2 onwards, the spelling test will be on Chinese words.
Every day, we will spend some time revising his textbooks and workbooks before the dinner is served. By the time we get back to our home, it will be around 8pm. We have half an hour left to pack the school bag and read a book before his bedtime.
I’m still sticking to my personal mantra that he needs to do revisions daily, be on-track with what the teachers are teaching in school, and to avoid the frenzy of last minute pre-exam revision.
Most of his classmates have tuition classes in the afternoon after school. Recently, I had a talk with a friend whose son is Edison’s classmate. I was completely taken aback when she told me that she sent his son for Science enrichment class. They haven’t even started Science subject in Primary One!
She also sent her son for Maths enrichment class. At this point, I find that Primary One Maths is still manageable and I don’t need to send him for any tuition classes.
Different parents have different perceptions when it comes to enrichment and tuition classes. Some parents may want to advance their kids, or at least adequately prepared them before the subjects are being taught in school.
Some parents may think that they don’t have time to teach their kids (especially when both parents are working), so they send their kids to tuition classes. And some parents send their kids to tuition classes because they have difficulties coping with their study.
As of now, I haven’t enrolled Edison for any tuition classes. But he has 1.5 hours each of Chinese and English enrichment classes on weekends. The reason is for him to enhance his understanding of languages.
I still believe that he should be learning all the subjects from school – not from tuition classes. I don’t want to ‘over-tutor’ him unless he really has difficulties coping with his study. It is also my wish for him to enjoy as carefree a childhood for as long as possible, rather than be smothered by homework and tuition classes.
These are my goals for him this year –
- Read for enjoyment at his own pace
- Manage his school homework and time-table independently
- Able to learn his spelling independently
- Have fun at school and enjoy learning
Instead of racing for As, I’m happy for my son to discover his potentials at his own pace and enjoy the lifelong learning process.
P/S: No offend to any parents who send their children to tuition or enrichment classes. I never label anyone as kiasu because all of us, parents, want to give the best to our children.