I didn’t plan to write about Real Mom’s Secret today because it is Friday. I should write about something more interesting rather than a book. However, I really run out of idea of what to write today.
So, please excuse my boring post today.
I’ve read about one-third of the book now. Today, I would like to share with you the first three secrets of real mothering from the book 12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know by Michele Borba, Ed.D.
Secret # 1
If our children have unconditional love, they will be more likely to thrive.
Of course, all mothers love their children but unconditional love goes deeper and it’s about our complete acceptance of our children’s true selves. And that includes all their weaknesses and flaws. Happy kids are being loved with no strings attached.
Secret # 2
We must set consistent limits and standards of behavior so that our children will learn to act right even without our presence.
No mother wants to reprimand their children. Our goal is to raise happy kids who are well-behaved. When they are getting on the wrong track, it’s time for us to apply some limits. By being consistent and using the right discipline, our relationship with our children will improve and our children will behave the way we hope them to be.
Secret # 3
We must give our children complete attention.
Listening with full presence is one of the most precious gifts we can give to our children. When we stop what we are doing to focus totally on our children, we are conveying our love and acceptance. It’s a total willingness to let our children know that we’re there for them.
This may sound easy, but it is not. For busy mothers like us, most of the time we’re multi-tasking when we are talking to our children. We are listening, and at the same time, our eyes and hands are also busy with something else.
Switch off the mobile phone, shut down the computer and stop the work. Sit close to our children, look at them and listen to them completely. It feels very different, really. I’ve tried it and I felt the effects instantly.
Part 3 of Real Mom’s Secret is coming up next week. Please stay tuned.
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