I believe marriage – like life – is defined as much by the problems that have to be overcome together, as a husband and wife.
I’m old enough to know that marriage is not always a bed of roses. In every relationship, there are ups and downs. It is not always perfect and conflict-free.
And LOVE is about confronting these issues and overcoming them without hurting the other party. This is possibly one of the things that are hard to achieve, and it’s my weakness too.
My husband and I had numerous fights and arguments too – some of them were dramatic and serious. Just last week, we had a huge fight. We were screaming at each other so loudly and we were in a car along the expressway. Little Edison and our helper were seated in the rear, they were so worried but they didn’t dare to say a word. I was so angry that I ignored him for the whole day.
But no matter how hard we fight, we will eventually forgive and forget. We will always move on. Love is about forgiveness, because when we really love someone, we have to forgive them and be patient with their mistakes. And that’s the greatest power of LOVE.
When I think about it again, I can’t even remember why we had such a big fight. It could be possibly due to my impatience and his bad-temperedness – these two elements is a bad combination and the ‘evil’ in our relationship.
Whenever I’m angry with him, I will also remember him as the man, who would boil bitter guard soup for me when I’m sick, give me support and stand by me when I’m down, drive my car to the petrol station when I’m busy, tell me silly jokes when I’m sad and protect me when I was bullied.
I constantly remind myself that I’m blessed to have such a wonderful husband. And automatically, my anger will disappear. It’s magical.
LOVE is a long journey. LOVE is a lot of hard works too.