Eating Problems Revisited

I’ve never heard a mother says that her child eats well. Maybe it’s because a mother can never be satisfied with how much her child eats, or it’s because she is afraid to say aloud that her child eats well, for fear of a jinx or ‘pantang’. Whatever.

A friend of mine consulted me on her son’s eating problem lately. Honestly, I fretted a lot about Little Edison’s picky eating behavior two years ago. I always felt that he never ate enough. There were days that he didn’t eat anything at all. We were so worried that we started supplementing him with more milk.

But soon, I realized that this wasn’t a wise move. When we fed him with more milk, he became full and he will continue to reject solid foods. Then, I would try to distract him, or make the food more interesting and appealing by adding something that he likes to it. I would try everything possible for a chance to feed more spoons of food into his mouth.

In the end, I realized that it’s a complete waste of time, energy as well as efforts. It’s just too mentally-draining for both of us. We’re happier if I just let go whenever he announced that he has had enough. Interestingly enough, without the stress factor, he seemed to eat more too.

I’ve also observed that if he eats nothing at breakfast, he tends to eat a hearty lunch. Or if he nibbles at his lunch, he will have a huge dinner. In another words, if he starves today, he gorges tomorrow. So ultimately, he does make up for it. With great difficulty, I have learnt not to worry about his feeding problem and to trust his instincts.

Every child is different, and all we need to do is identify and recognize their own special characteristics. Little Edison, for example, cannot eat too much at one go. I have to give him smaller portion of food with regular intervals. He takes a long time to chew on vegetables, so I let him eats his fish, meat and rice first, followed by vegetables. I will give him fruits after that.

Most parenting books warn us no TV during meals but somehow, TV works wonders for me. When the TV is on, he will sit still to watch while I feed him. This way, he will be able to finish his meal although he may take a longer time. I have my patience tested every day now, as he takes at least 45 minutes to finish his meal.

Some rules of thumb to share:

  • No junk food, snacks, milk and juices at least one hour before mealtime.
  • Don’t serve a meal with drink but serve it after the meal.
  • Feed with patience, no force-feed or threaten to take away food. Otherwise, the kids will start to associate mealtimes with negative behaviours.
  • Lastly, the child should decide when he / she is full, not us.

Here’s an interesting fact to share. Experts say that fussy eaters usually develop after the weaning stage, until the age of four. The problem usually resolves itself by the preschool years. I find that it is quite true. Now, our Little Edison really does eat better than two years ago.

 

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My boy has been on food strike since he was a year old. It’s been 1.5 years and we give up trying out to get him to eat. Nothing we did helped, so now we let him be – he’s on full milk feed. Hopefully his eating habit improves when he gets older.

I was a super-fussy eater when young — hates veges, peels off bread skin, rejects imperfect eggs, etc. Thankfully, my hubby eats well and passed these genes to our boy. He loves to eat and has been raised as mainly vegetarian. He eats lots of vegetables and fruits and on certain meals, I’ve to restrict his intake. You’re right that parents like us don’t say aloud that the kid eats well. We know that there’re many fussy-eaters around and don’t want to upset the other parents. (Of course, good-eaters can have their fussiness in other ways too.) And yes, have… Read more »

Erm… I am one mum who dares to say that my kids are not exactly fussy eater (though they have their own preference). I guess it is something trained from young. For instance, I started to introduce them to veggies once they started weaning at 4 mths. Like chopped spinach slow cooked with porridge, mashed broccoli with carrots. Therefore my elder boy now 6 loves his greens more than meat. My younger boy at 4, is slightly more difficult loving only soup and rice. However he loves his carrots cooked in soup. At their age now, there are times they… Read more »

my son is on pediasure..which are meant for fussy eater, as it is being marketed But i dont think he is a fussy eater ..just that his milk intake is quite low since birth coz he was never a milk monster When he was baby gg to toddler..i was so worried about his milk intake that i monitor by the ml and his weight by the grams ..but i guess he has grown older (28 months now)..n i think he prefer his solids and the milk intake stabilizes (i rather have this pattern than those who guzzles milk n eat… Read more »

My child fussy eating problems have been going like forever. Started rejecting porridge at 7 months, when we barely started on it for like 1 month. Still have specific preferences now at 4. But picky eating have improved since I have done the ‘cruel’ thing by taking away food when he refuses it and not offering any alternatives, and letting him feel hungry for a meal at least. That seemed to have helped and he is more willing to finish up whatever he is given, and try new food. But try not to do wat I did till your child… Read more »

Hi there! Found your blog while browsing and I can totally relate to this article! We have one of those “fussy eaters”, and he was on purees for the longest of times since he would just store everything in his mouth and spit if it was hard to chew! I kept puree-ing everything since my mother claimed that I was permanently on porridge til I was past 4 years old… but realized it wasn’t helping him to get used to new textures etc. Thankfully now I must say he’s a better eater at 2.5 years. Not fantastic, and he’s at… Read more »

sidahang

Thank you after reading your post, now i become confident that i can do so. My son is also a fussy eater as well as he can starve for a day wo any food but he only loves to drink etc. Milk,ribena n yakult. If he eats, i have a stress time feeding him. I even tried to let him eat by himself but he loves to play with his food instead. When i spoon fed him, he will start running away from me just like playing catching. Recently i bought online food cutter for cartoon like mickey,pooh,frog etc. im… Read more »