Work-Life Balance

Strike a Balance

One of those little things that V and I promised each other is that we must try to return home and have dinner together, with Little Edison every day. Family dinner is the most important part of my day. I’m so thankful to my mother-in-law who cooks healthy home-cooked food for us every weekday – so we don’t have to rush home to cook.

During dinner time, we’ll talk about the bits and pieces of our everyday. My parents-in-law will update us on the little things about Little Edison, from what he ate for lunch, what he did in the afternoon to what time he poop. Interestingly enough, we don’t feel bored hearing the same conversation every day.

That’s my first rule of achieving work-life balance – to return home punctually for dinner.

Second rule – this is also one of the things which I’m adamant about is that work should NOT be brought home. Again, replying to urgent work e-mails from home is often unavoidable but we should still keep it at minimum. Other works should be put aside. We should try to improve our productivity at work so that we don’t have to “over-time” at home.

Now that we’re without a helper, we also found ourselves in another set of problem with our house chores. Initially, I tried to do everything on my own and I got frustrated when I neglected other important things like teaching Little Edison to write, spending time with V etc.

So, we made resolutions to at least put aside some time on evenings to coach our son in his study – doing worksheets, practice writing and reading story books. This usually takes 30 to 45 minutes, and then we will spend some time together – either watching TV or playing games before going to bed.

After Little Edison goes to bed at 10pm, we will try to do some house chores together (if there is still energy left). We split the house chores and have a roster for it. It helps us to stay focused and ensure that our house runs smoothly – and without frustrations.

Here is my typical weekday routine:

  • 6:15 am: Wake up and prepare for work.
  • 7:15 am: Wake Little Edison up and prepare him for school.
  • 7:40 am: Drive him to school and go to work after that.
  • 8:30 am: Reach office and start work.
  • 6:00 pm: Leave office to my parents-in-law’s house.
  • 6:15 pm: Play with Little Edison.
  • 6:45 pm: Family dinner time.
  • 8:00 pm: Return to our home.
  • 8:30 pm: Shower and settle down.
  • 9:00 pm: Study and home work time.
  • 9:30 pm: TV and games.
  • 10:00 pm: Little Edison goes to bed.
  • 10:30 -11 pm: I go to bed.

I’m thankful that I still have 7 to 8 hours of sleep at night. Being a full-time working mother and without a helper, I couldn’t be happier with this.

But the down side is that there will be minimal “me-time”. I’m also slowing down in other activities like blogging, reading a book, watching my idol drama etc. Hopefully, I can still maintain this blog with weekly updates about our family.


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shakti November 22, 2011 at 10:43 AM


first time here, u have a very nice blog..
i like your routine during weekdays.. lucky that u have ur in laws in same place unlike me.. iam still searching for childcare options..
iam from india.. dont u think spore has long working hrs maybe they shd allow working moms on 9 to 5 atleast 🙂

Emily November 28, 2011 at 12:39 PM

Hi Shakti,
Welcome to my blog. 🙂

Singapore indded has longer working hours as compared to other countries. Most people don’t leave their office until 7 or 8pm. I’m considered the lucky ones who can leave on the dot. Yes, I’m glad to have my in-law’s help to take care of my son as I’m not a fan of childcare center. Hopefully, you can find one that you like and suits you soon. Take care!

Huey ling November 23, 2011 at 7:18 AM

Hi fren,

I guess life’s like that. Either u hire a live in maid to help u, engage a part time maid, or the worst choice is to DIY!! When u choose to do everything yrself, there will be alot of things which u strive to achieve will be left undone. Like for me, everyday is war. Chores, cooking, feeding, looking after the 2 kiddos all by myself is really draining me off. As much as i wish to spend lots of time coaching and nuturing my kids, time doesn’t permit. Thats why i always feel so guilty towards them. Why don’t u hire a part time maid that cums on weekends to help u with the major household chores?

Emily November 28, 2011 at 12:42 PM

Hi Huey Ling,
I’m just lazy to go through the hassle of finding maids again – be it part time or full time. I rather do it myself. If the PT maid is not up to expectations, we have to change again. Quite troublesome. I think the house chores are still manageable now – my hubby is also helping out. Just that I need to prioritize certain tasks – in order not to lose focus.

Jennie November 24, 2011 at 12:19 AM

I think you are doing really great!

Emily November 28, 2011 at 12:43 PM

Hi Jen,
Thanks! =)


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