There was a time where the role of a father was mainly in the financial aspect. He was the breadwinner of the family. When he was able to bring home the bacon, his job was considered done and he was respected in his community.
However, today’s fatherhood has evolved so much more than just paying the bills. It means the other half of a couple equally responsible for raising children. Fathers are much more involved than they’ve ever been, and that’s fantastic.
When I was young, my mother was in-charge of every single parenting duty, from feeding, bathing, changing my diapers etc. She didn’t have a helper, and I honestly don’t know how she copes with taking care of three kids.
Did my father helped out when he got back from work? I asked my mom this, and from the look on her face, I was certain that her answer is NO. I can’t blame my Dad for not contributing much to childcare or housework, because he worked very hard to make ends meet. He had to support his wife, three kids, his mother and mother-in-law. He had six mouths to feed, that’s what he always said.
Fast forward to 2012, my marriage works a little differently. When the Husband cooks, I take care of the after-dinner clean-up. We alternate the book-reading, bath-giving, meal-making, dish-washing, house-keeping etc. I think the Husband I have hit upon the perfect balance.
As a result, three great things have happened to us: (1) Our marriage is stronger, (2) Our home is more peaceful, and (3) Our son has a close relationship with his dad. Instead of constantly looking for me, he has started choosing Daddy to help him or play with him.
To our always committed Daddy V, and all the dads out there, I wish all of you a very …
Happy Father’s Day!