Baby # 2: Yes or No?

While I’m searching for a photo in my blog archives, I stumbled upon an old post written by me two years ago. It reminds me that I actually started thinking about having baby # 2 since two years ago. Two years have passed in a blink of an eye, and I am in fact, still undecided. Omg, what am I doing?

Some days, I do feel confident about producing baby # 2 next year. Other times, when I look at Little Edison, I feel that one is certainly more than enough. He has settled into an easy-to-look-after stage now. Our life in general has settled into a nice and balanced routine too.

The Hubby and I are at a stage where we’re seriously considering the actual implications between having another baby and stopping at one. If we have only one child, will Little Edison grow up spoilt and lonely? And if we have baby #2, will I go bonkers trying to juggle career and motherhood?

If we only have Little Edison, he will be able to pursue his tertiary education overseas. He will have nice clothes, cool toys, yearly vacation and most importantly, a chance to go to better school. Whatever his interest is, we’ll be able to support him financially without batting an eyelid.

If we have another baby, he may not get the full attention and care from us. We may have to think twice before signing him up for enrichment programs. Even if money is not a problem, we may not have time to send him there. Vacation will be totally out of the picture too (for at least 3 years), not to mention other issues like sleep deprivation etc.

Have you been in this stage before?

I grew up in a family of three kids. Being the eldest child, I witnessed the hardship that my parents went through to take care of us and support us all the way to the university. At the end, they are left with little savings and they are dependent on their children’s monthly allowance. I don’t wish for the same thing to happen to us. I want to give my son a good life without having to worry about financial issues, now and in future.

On the flip side, a friend once told me, if Little Edison doesn’t have a sibling, he will be all alone when we are no longer in this world. Well, this is food for thought to me. I hope that he will find a life partner and get married when we’re still around.

The most critical aspect is who is going to take care of baby #2 when we’re at work? I have had bad experiences with infant care center. I’m not keen to hire a foreign maid again. My parents-in-law are tied-up taking care of Little Edison and I can’t possibly burden them with another baby.

I’m also not willing to give up my career. Recently, I’ve been promoted to a managerial position. It is one of the most significant career advancement in my life and the remuneration is attractive too. I want to build-up my retirement savings and be financially-independent for as long as possible. So, quitting my job is not an option too.

So, is it really possible to have a balanced work-life, with tolerable stress level while being a mother of two children? I love to hear your views, especially if you are a working mother of two or more children.

Will I have more children? I don’t know. My age is catching up too, that’s a known fact. Maybe I should look at more babies to motivate myself.